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Parenting is full of moments that catch us off guard. One of the most humbling is when our kids ask a question, and we simply don’t know the answer. It could be something about faith, life, or even science (why do giraffes have long necks, anyway?). When it comes to questions about God, the Bible, or deeper life issues, those moments can feel especially weighty.

The good news? You don’t have to have all the answers. Let’s explore how to navigate these moments with grace, humility, and faith.

Don’t Assume Skepticism
When your child asks, “Why does God allow bad things to happen?” or “How do we know the Bible is true?” it’s tempting to panic, thinking they’re on the verge of losing their faith. But kids are naturally curious. Often, their questions come from a place of genuine wonder, not doubt.

Instead of assuming the worst, lean into their curiosity. Celebrate that they’re thinking deeply and trust that God is big enough to handle their questions (and yours!).

Don’t Dismiss the Question with Cliché Answers
It’s easy to fall back on stock phrases like “We just have to trust God” or “God works in mysterious ways.” While these are true, they often shut down the conversation rather than inviting your child to explore further.

Instead, acknowledge their question. Say something like, “That’s a great question—I’ve wondered about that too.” This shows that you take their thoughts seriously and invites more dialogue.

Don’t Over-Answer the Question
Sometimes, in our eagerness to give a good answer, we unload everything we know on the subject. The result? A glazed-over child and a missed opportunity to truly connect.

Keep it simple. Answer what you can in an age-appropriate way and leave space for more questions. If you don’t know the answer, it’s okay to say, “I don’t know, but let’s explore it together.”

Don’t Assume Answers Will Satisfy
Even if you manage to give the most thorough, thoughtful answer, your child might still respond with, “But why?” or “That doesn’t make sense.” And that’s okay. Faith is a journey, and answers often lead to more questions.

Your role isn’t to have all the answers but to walk alongside your child as they wrestle with big ideas. Let them know it’s okay not to have everything figured out—most adults don’t either!

Make Your Home a Place to Raise Doubts
Create an environment where it’s safe to ask hard questions. Be honest about your own doubts or the things you’re still learning. This doesn’t weaken your faith in their eyes; it makes it real and relatable.

Let your children know they won’t be judged or dismissed for voicing their struggles. When they feel safe to share, you’re building a foundation of trust that will last long into their adult years.

At the heart of these principles is one simple truth: parenting isn’t about being perfect; it’s about being present. When you don’t have the answers, your willingness to engage and learn alongside your child speaks volumes about the God you’re teaching them to trust.

So next time your child stumps you with a question, take a deep breath, lean in, and enjoy the adventure of discovering together. You might both grow in faith along the way.

What’s the toughest question your child has ever asked? Share in the comments—we’re all in this together!

As Christians, we are called to be people of prayer, lifting up every aspect of our lives and our world to God. Among the most challenging but essential areas of prayer is interceding for our leaders—both those we agree with and those we don’t. In a polarized world, this practice is not only countercultural but also deeply transformative. Let’s explore why and how we should pray for those in authority.

The Biblical Call to Pray for Leaders

The Bible provides clear instructions about praying for our leaders. In 1 Timothy 2:1-2, Paul writes:

> “I urge, then, first of all, that petitions, prayers, intercession and thanksgiving be made for all people—for kings and all those in authority, that we may live peaceful and quiet lives in all godliness and holiness.”

Paul’s words remind us that praying for our leaders isn’t optional; it’s integral to our witness and our hope for a flourishing society. Importantly, Paul wrote these words during a time when Christians faced persecution under Roman rulers. His call to prayer wasn’t based on the character or policies of the leaders but on the sovereignty of God, who holds all authority in His hands.

Why Pray for Leaders We Disagree With?

1. Obedience to God: Praying for leaders, regardless of our personal views, is an act of submission to God’s command. It demonstrates trust that He is ultimately in control.

2. Shaping Our Hearts: Prayer softens our hearts toward others, including those we struggle to understand or accept. It reminds us that every leader is a person made in the image of God, in need of His wisdom and grace.

3. Seeking the Common Good: Leaders, whether they share our values or not, wield significant influence over policies and decisions that affect countless lives. Our prayers can invite God’s guidance and justice into those decisions.

4. Demonstrating Christ’s Love: Jesus taught us to love our enemies and pray for those who persecute us (Matthew 5:44). By praying for leaders we disagree with, we model the radical love and humility of Christ.

How to Pray for Leaders

1. Pray for Wisdom and Discernment: Ask God to grant leaders the insight to make just and compassionate decisions, prioritizing the well-being of the people they serve.

2. Pray for Integrity and Accountability: Pray that leaders would act with honesty and transparency, resisting corruption and selfish ambition.

3. Pray for Strength and Protection: Leading is often a difficult and isolating task. Pray for the physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being of those in authority.

4. Pray for Unity and Peace: Ask God to use leaders as instruments of reconciliation and harmony, especially in times of division.

5. Pray for Salvation: If a leader does not know Christ, pray that they would encounter His love and truth. Ultimately, this is the greatest need of every human heart.

A Challenge to All of Us

Praying for our leaders—especially those we don’t agree with—requires humility and faith. It means setting aside bitterness and cynicism, trusting that God can work through anyone to accomplish His purposes. Let’s take up this challenge with confidence, knowing that our prayers make a difference.

As we intercede for our leaders, we participate in God’s redemptive work in the world. May our prayers not only bless those in authority but also transform us into people who reflect Christ’s love and grace.

Let’s commit today to pray fervently, trusting that the God who hears our prayers is also the God who rules over all.

Steve and Helen Townend

1. What brought you to start leading a life group?
We both felt that we had something that we could give in terms of teaching and leading.
We have led groups for a number of years both in our home and at church.
2. Can you share a little about your family, work, or hobbies?
Steve is now retired and loves reading and doing puzzles. Helen teaches painting and drawing
part time. We have 3 children, one son who lives at home with us and two daughters, one married,
who live away from home.
3. What is the typical format or structure of your group meetings?
Our typical format is an introductory time – general chit chat (5 mins), watch the video and
participate in the discussion (however long that takes) and finish with a prayer time (5 to 10
minutes). The longest we meet is usually about 1 hour 30 minutes.
4. Who is your group best suited for?
Our group is open to anyone
5. How has being part of a life group impacted your faith journey?
I think that the life groups that we have hosted or participated in have either challenged us in
some way or have prompted in us a desire to see a certain topic discussed as we believe it could
have an impact on the lives of people.
6. What do you hope group members will gain by joining your life group?
We hope that people doing this course will be challenged in their generosity and in their faith in
general.

Stephen and Nathalie Ritchie

1. What brought you to start leading a life group?
Belief that we all need fellowship, discipleship, and spiritual growth beyond the weekly
Sunday services
2. Can you share a little about your family, work, or hobbies?
Nathalie is a retired school teacher, and I am a professor at Laurentian University in the School of
Kinesiology and Heath Sciences. We have two adult children, Tristan and Ixta. Tristan is married
to Rebecca and they have blessed us with two grandchildren, Iris and Lottie. We are avid outdoor
adventurers, explorers, and gardeners, marveling at God’s creation as much as we can!
3. What makes your life group unique?
Our Life Group is unique for several reasons. We are a Family LG where children of all ages are
welcome, although we don’t provide specific programming for them. They can play amongst
themselves or join the adults for discussion and prayer. We are also unique because there are two
hosts and leaders, Grace Ma and the Ritchies and the host site alternates between our homes. We
also meet on Friday from 7-9pm approximately every second week.
4. What is the typical format or structure of your group meetings?
The evening usually begins with fellowship, and then a themed bible study, and ending with a
prayer time.
5. Who is your group best suited for?
Anyone!
6. How has being part of a life group impacted your faith journey?
Our group has marveled over the answer to prayer that has occurred.
7. What do you hope group members will gain by joining your life group?
We hope that group members will deepen their relationship with Jesus, grow in their faith, and
develop deeper relationships with each other as we fellowship together.

Michelle Ross

1. What brought you to start leading a life group?
Being a participant in a LG in each of the 6 countries we have lived in has been a life line for
me and so was led to give back when the opportunity arose to volunteer to be a leader
2. Can you share a little about your family, work, or hobbies?
My Husband Alistair and I have been married for 43 years and we have 2 sons and a
daughter. We are also thrilled to be grandparents to a 10 year old step grandson and 3
granddaughters under the age of 5. I graduated as an elementary school teacher in
Zimbabwe and have either worked, substituted or volunteered in the school systems that
our children attended. I enjoy cooking from scratch, playing golf, swimming and walking
with friends.
3. What makes your life group unique?
Being a stay at home mum when our children were young has given me an empathy for mums
who are currently in the same position. So our group allows a safe place for us to discuss the
loneliness that often comes with this, our marriages and supporting each other as we raise our
children through all their stages of development. As we study the word together, we grow in the
Lord and long lasting friendships occur.
4. What is the typical format or structure of your group meetings?
Coffee or tea time as we arrive, watch the Video if we have one for our topic series, discuss the
study notes and end in prayer.
5. Who is your group best suited for?
Best suited for ladies who are mums under 55 and wanting to grow in the Lord
6. How has being part of a life group impacted your faith journey?
Meeting in a small group has challenged me to form new relationships often with strangers, held
me accountable to growing in the Lord so that I can live abundantly wherever I am planted. It
has brought me so much Joy over the years and filled my love tank!
7. What do you hope group members will gain by joining your life group?
Confidence to live as a child of God in this ever changing world. Where they can share the Good
news easily, love others abundantly, be peacemakers and also become leaders.

Kathryn Irwin-Seguin

1. What brought you to start leading a life group?
I attended a Life Group in fall of 2017 and my Life Group leader suggested that she thought
I would be a good Life Group leader. I had enjoyed the experience of being part of a Life
Group and prayed about it and put my name forward.
2. Can you share a little about your family, work, or hobbies?
I am married with 3 step-grandchildren and 1 step-great-grandchild. My step-son passed away in
2007, after being hit by a drunk driver. I am the former director of Monarch Recovery Services, an
agency that provided services for men and women struggling with substance abuse.
3. What makes your life group unique?
Michelle Ross and I co-lead the 2 groups which meet simultaneously on Wednesday mornings
and study the same content. We love to laugh and sing and have forged strong friendships/bonds
within our groups.
4. What is the typical format or structure of your group meetings?
We start with coffee time, open in prayer, sing and then split into separate groups to discuss the
lesson and then spend time in prayer requests from the members of the group.
5. Who is your group best suited for?
Women. We have members aged 40 – 95, new Christians and long-term Christians, all looking to
fellowship with other women in the church.
6. How has being part of a life group impacted your faith journey?
I do a lot of research for each study and I like to provide the context of when and why the
scriptures we are studying. Consequently, I have learned so much from the research, but also
from other members of the group and their perspectives and what the scriptures can teach us
about the times we live in.
7. What do you hope group members will gain by joining your life group?
Increased knowledge of our God, His love, what it means to live the Christian life and the wisdom
of the Bible. As well, fellowship with other women and learning to love each other as Christ
admonished us.

Grace Ma

1. What brought you to start leading a life group?
Michelle, a neighbor on my lake, was leading life groups in her home at the time. She
prayed with me about it several times, and I felt called to open my home for life group
families. Initially, we co-hosted, which was incredibly helpful as Michelle’s experience
provided valuable guidance. Currently, I co-host with the Ritchies, which works well given
my work schedule, as it doesn’t allow for many weeks off.
2. Can you share a little about your family, work, or hobbies?
My biological family includes my daughter Christina and me. Over the pandemic, we leaned
heavily on what I call my “Sudbury family”—our neighbors and friends. Finding a church family
has been a blessing, helping Christina grow spiritually while giving me opportunities to nurture
love within the community where I work. Professionally, I am a doctor at the hospital, so my
schedule often involves shift work and weekend call coverage, which keeps me away from the
church family at times.
3. What makes your life group unique?
Our group is open and welcoming to anyone in a family—which includes everyone! We welcome
mothers, fathers, daughters, sons, sisters, brothers, grandparents, kids, and friends. When I was
looking for a life group, I couldn’t find one that worked for both my daughter and me during nonwork
and non-school hours. Spending quality time with her is a priority, and this inclusive familycentered
group allows us to share in spiritual growth together.
4. What is the typical format or structure of your group meetings?
We meet twice a month on Fridays from 7:00 to 9:00 PM. Members are encouraged to have
dinner beforehand but are welcome to bring a light snack. Our meetings start with a prayer,
followed by fellowship time, a short Bible study, and a closing prayer. After prayer, we enjoy
snacks and fellowship until around 9:00 or 9:30 PM.
5. Who is your group best suited for?
Our group welcomes anyone from ages 1 to 100, at any life stage, who is interested in building
relationships, strengthening their spiritual walk through prayer, and learning how to cultivate a
strong family unit.
6. How has being part of a life group impacted your faith journey?
Being part of a life group has been instrumental in finding a sense of belonging within the church
community. It has given me the opportunity to meet people I wouldn’t otherwise have
encountered. Hosting this group of prayer warriors in my home is a blessing. Witnessing
answered prayers through this life group has been both refreshing and renewing for my faith.
7. What do you hope group members will gain by joining your life group?
I hope members will find a welcoming group of believers who can support them in their spiritual
growth and faith journey.

Gerry Lougheed Jr.

1. What brought you to start leading a life group?
I am leading this Life Group because I feel “The Chosen” video helps us better understand
and appreciate Jesus’ ministries and His followers.
2. Can you share a little about your family, work, or hobbies?
I have lay preached in the Sudbury area for over 50 years. I am the President of Lougheed’s
Funeral Home. I take bike treks all over the place.
3. What makes your life group unique?
The chemistry within our group is amazing producing a spiritual synergy of enlightenment and
empowerment.
4. What is the typical format or structure of your group meetings?
We start at 6:30 p.m. and end at 8 p.m. We have review from last week, watch an episode, reflect
on what we watched using the workbook provided and we include music and prayer!
5. Who is your group best suited for?
Everyone!
6. How has being part of a life group impacted your faith journey?
It has been awesome, truly making me better love being “Chosen.”
7. What do you hope group members will gain by joining your life group?
They will better appreciate how Jesus truly was a shepherd, teacher, preacher and Saviour. We
take Jesus out of the stain glass window and make Him a friend and family member.

As we approach the end of 2024, it is with hearts full of gratitude that we look back on all the incredible ways God has been moving through All Nations Church this past year. Together, we have so much to celebrate and give thanks for.

Growth in Our Congregation

– Highest Attended Sunday: This year, we experienced our highest attended Sunday service with 509 people gathering to worship together.
– Connect Cards Filled Out: We welcomed 151 individuals who took the step to fill out connect cards, expressing their desire to become part of our church family.
– Youth Attendance Doubled: Our youth ministry has flourished, with attendance doubling and creating a vibrant space for young people to grow in their faith.
– Life Group Attendance Tripled: Our Life Groups have become a cornerstone for community and spiritual growth, with participation tripling this year.
– Regular Attendance in Kids Ministry Rising: Our kids ministry continues to thrive, with more children regularly participating each week.

Lives Transformed

– 52 Baptisms: We rejoiced as 52 individuals publicly declared their faith in Christ through baptism.
– Increased Evangelism and Training: Participation in evangelism efforts and training through programs like ShareWord has grown, equipping our congregation to share the gospel with confidence.

Serving Our Community

– Living Nativity: Over 1,500 people attended the Living Nativity, experiencing the true meaning of Christmas through this beautiful tradition.
– Mountain of Mittens: Together, we collected over 1,500 hats and mittens, which were delivered to 24 organizations across the city to help those in need.
– Elgin Street Mission Support: From night sponsorships and Cookies for Christ to hosting Summer BBQs, we’ve had the privilege of serving alongside the Elgin Street Mission to bless our community.
– Big Brothers/Big Sisters Backpacks: Our church collected 55 backpacks filled with supplies to support children through Big Brothers/Big Sisters.
– Kids Ministry Food Drive: Our kids ministry led a successful food drive, teaching our children the joy of giving back.

Strengthening Our Church Family

– Volunteers: Over 140 individuals are actively serving in regular volunteer roles, ensuring that every ministry is thriving.
– Church-Wide Meals: We came together as a church family to share five sponsored meals, deepening our connections and celebrating fellowship.
– Building Upgrades: Our physical space has seen multiple improvements, creating an even more welcoming environment for worship and ministry.

Financial Blessings

– Revenue Increase: Through faithful giving, our total revenue increased by 7%, enabling us to expand our ministry efforts and impact.

Looking Ahead

As we reflect on 2024, we are reminded of God’s faithfulness and the power of His work through His people. Let us carry this momentum into 2025, continuing to grow, serve, and share His love with our community and beyond.

Thank you, All Nations Church, for your faithfulness, generosity, and dedication to making Jesus known. Here’s to another year of transformation and blessing!

All of us long for love. Whether in friendships, family, or romantic relationships, there’s a deep desire within us for love that fills the heart and soul. Yet, particularly during this time of year, we can fall into the trap of measuring love by what we receive.

How often do we hear it? “Their gift wasn’t as good as mine.” Or worse, “They didn’t spend enough. They must not love me.” Our world has a tendency to reduce love to transactions. But deep within, we know this isn’t the kind of love we’re truly longing for.

The love we crave cannot be satisfied by gifts, objects, or even other people. Human love, as beautiful as it is, has limits. It will one day fade. But there is a love that is eternal, unending, and unshakable: God’s love.

God’s love is not merely an emotion or a gift He gives. It’s His very essence. When we experience His love, we’re receiving something far deeper—a piece of His nature. As 1 John 4:8 reminds us, “God is love.”

At Christmas, we see this love in action: “For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life” (John 3:16). This familiar verse is the heart of the gospel. God’s love is not surprising because the world is so big; it’s surprising because the world is so broken.

Even though we’re sinners, undeserving of His grace, God’s love bridges the gap between His holiness and our sinfulness. Through Jesus, we’re not condemned but saved. His birth, life, death, and resurrection were all acts of love meant to redeem us and invite us into a relationship with Him.

This love is personal. It’s not just for the world at large but for you. Jesus washed the feet of His disciples, including Judas, the one who would betray Him. That’s the kind of love God offers—unconditional, sacrificial, and full of grace.

This Christmas, let’s remember that love isn’t about what we give or receive but about the Savior who gave everything for us. The greatest gift we can offer is to reflect His love by serving others, forgiving freely, and sharing the hope found in Christ.

*For God so loved the world. For God so loved you.* That’s what we celebrate at Christmas.

I love Christmas. The lights, the gifts, the food, and the magic of the season—it all feels so special. But what makes Christmas truly magical isn’t just the traditions or even the nostalgia. It’s the way this time of year stirs something deep inside us, a longing for things to be made right. Hallmark movies and Christmas stories echo this: a spark reignited, broken relationships restored, hearts transformed. Even outside of Christian circles, the season whispers promises of hope, peace, and love.

This longing isn’t just seasonal—it’s eternal. Ecclesiastes 3:11 calls it “eternity in our hearts.” Deep down, we hope for reconciliation, forgiveness, and belonging. We want loneliness to end, relationships to heal, and peace to rule our lives. But here’s the hard truth: without the King, the promises of the kingdom fall short. The magic of Christmas morning fades, and the hope we placed in the season can leave us feeling empty and frustrated.

Yet, this longing is not misplaced. Christmas is a shadow of something real. The miracle of Jesus’ birth fulfills these hopes in a way nothing else can. In the coming of Christ, we see the evidence that we are wanted, forgiven, and offered peace. Ephesians 2:13-14 declares:

“But now you have been united with Christ Jesus. Once you were far away from God, but now you have been brought near to him through the blood of Christ. For Christ himself has brought peace to us.”

This peace is for everyone—the lawless and the weary alike. To the one who feels far from God, unsure if they could ever belong, Jesus says, “You are wanted.” To the one exhausted by striving, trying to earn love or approval, He says, “You are enough. Rest in me.”

The beauty of Advent is that it doesn’t just point to peace—it invites us to live in it. By His life, death, and resurrection, Jesus bridges the gap between us and God. And when we are right with Him, we can begin to find peace with others.

So this season, let the hope of Jesus fill your heart. Whether you feel far or near, weary or uncertain, His peace is for you. He has come to break down walls, heal divisions, and make all things new. This is the true magic of Christmas: God with us, inviting us into His love and eternal peace.

You are wanted. You are forgiven. And through Jesus, you can experience the peace your heart has always longed for.

Joy and happiness are often confused, yet they couldn’t be more different. Happiness is fleeting, tied to circumstances, while joy is a profound, enduring gladness rooted in something far deeper. True joy, the kind that holds up under life’s pressures, begins with two key practices: remembrance and honest vulnerability before God.

Psalm 126 offers a guide to cultivating this kind of joy. It begins by recalling a time when God restored the fortunes of His people:
“When the Lord restored the fortunes of Zion, we were like those who dreamed. Our mouths were filled with laughter, our tongues with songs of joy.”

The first step to joy is remembrance—actively recalling what God has done. For the Israelites, it was freedom from exile, a reminder of God’s faithfulness even when everything seemed lost. For us, it might be the ways God has carried us through personal struggles, answered prayers, or shown grace in unexpected moments.

Yet, in the busyness of life, it’s easy to forget. When was the last time you paused to reflect on what God has done for you? Take a moment today to remember. Not just the obvious blessings, but the deeper ways He’s shaped your heart, provided in your need, or drawn you closer to Him.

The second step is bringing your desires honestly before God. Psalm 126:4 says, “Restore our fortunes, O Lord, like streams in the Negev.” This prayer is raw, asking for God to pour out His renewal on a parched and weary spirit.

Many of us hesitate to bring our wants to God, feeling the need to “clean up” our requests or make them sound more spiritual. But God doesn’t want a polished version of you—He wants the real you. He already knows your heart, so why not approach Him with your true desires? Tell Him what you need. Ask for healing, growth, or provision. Lay your burdens down without fear.

Finally, the psalm reminds us that joy coexists with hardship. “Those who sow with tears will reap with songs of joy.” Life is not free from pain, but joy takes root when we trust God’s faithfulness in the past, lay our desires before Him in the present, and hold onto the hope of future restoration.

This Christmas, the world offers cynicism. God offers joy—a joy grounded in His promise of eternal life. Embrace a rhythm of remembrance, bring your desires honestly before Him, and let gratitude carry you through. Joy is not fragile; it is a gift sustained by the One who never fails.

Ah, the Christmas season—a time when the world seems a little brighter. There’s the joy of family gatherings, the exchange of gifts, time off school or work, delicious food, and sparkling decorations. We have so much to look forward to. In the church, we also celebrate Advent, the season leading up to Christmas. Advent is a time of anticipation, when we remember the coming of Jesus Christ and prepare our hearts as we await His return. Each week of Advent highlights a gift Jesus brings us, starting with hope.

Every year, I carry the same fear into Christmas: that we’ll miss its true meaning. Amid the busyness and celebrations, it’s easy to overlook the miracle of what Jesus’ birth brings us. But Advent reminds us of this truth: because of Jesus, fear is defeated, and we have hope.

1. Hope for All People

In Luke 2:8-10, angels appeared to shepherds to announce the good news of Jesus’ birth:

“Do not be afraid. I bring you good news that will cause great joy for all the people.”

Shepherds were outcasts in society, often seen as unworthy or undesirable. Yet they were the first to hear the angelic proclamation. The message of Christmas is for everyone, no matter your background or status. Jesus’ birth declares that you are loved and wanted.

The shepherds fell in fear, believing they were unworthy to stand in God’s presence. But the angel’s words weren’t about condemnation—they were about invitation. “Fear not,” the angel said. Jesus came to bring hope to *all* people, no matter who they are or where they’ve been.

2. Hope for Our Doubts

When the shepherds heard the angel’s announcement, they didn’t dismiss it—they investigated:

“Let’s go to Bethlehem and see this thing that has happened, which the Lord has told us about.” (Luke 2:15)

God isn’t afraid of your doubts or questions. In fact, the Christmas story invites us to come closer and see for ourselves. Like the shepherds, when we draw near, we discover that God is exactly who He says He is.

3. Hope That Lasts

The birth of Jesus didn’t just bring momentary joy—it brought eternal hope. Psalm 130:3-4 reminds us that God sees us completely and still offers forgiveness. Jesus’ birth began the journey to the cross, where He bore our sin and conquered death.

This Christmas, don’t look down in fear—look up in hope. Jesus’ perfect love casts out fear. He came for you, to give you peace and joy that will never fade. Let us rejoice and share this good news: Christ has come, and He is our hope!

Parenting is a sacred journey, filled with moments of joy, trials, and, sometimes, differing opinions on how best to guide your children. In the Bible, we see that God has called parents to train their children in His ways (Proverbs 22:6) and to be united in love. When we encounter disagreements, God’s Word provides us with wisdom on how to handle them gracefully. Here are some ways to work as a team in faith, even when you and your partner have different perspectives.

1. Pray Together

Before tackling disagreements, seek God’s guidance together. Praying as a couple is one of the most powerful ways to stay united. Ask God for wisdom to make decisions in line with His will, and for patience and love in how you relate to each other. Remember James 1:5, “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.” By centering your discussions in prayer, you invite the Holy Spirit to guide you and foster peace.

2. Honour Unity in Front of Your Children

Just as the Bible encourages believers to live “in harmony with one another” (Romans 12:16), your children need to see this harmony between you and your partner. A united front doesn’t mean agreeing on every detail; it means handling disagreements in a way that shows love, respect, and teamwork. Avoid debating in front of the kids and, if a conflict arises, commit to discussing it privately later. Modelling unity teaches your children the value of respect, compromise, and self-control.

3. Lean on God’s Word as Your Guide

When deciding on key parenting issues, turn to Scripture to find common ground. For example, if you and your partner disagree on discipline, remember the wisdom of Ephesians 6:4: “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” Talk through the values and principles you see in Scripture, and ask God to help you build a parenting approach that honours Him.

4. Practice Humility and Grace

The Bible calls us to “be humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love” (Ephesians 4:2). Disagreements are a normal part of any relationship, and parenting is no different. Instead of approaching conversations with a need to be “right,” practice humility. Seek to understand your partner’s viewpoint, and express your own opinions with gentleness. This Christ-centered humility can open doors to finding solutions that bring peace.

5. Trust in Each Other’s Strengths, Guided by God

God uniquely gifted each of you with strengths that can bless your children. Recognize and trust each other’s abilities, knowing that together, you reflect a fuller picture of God’s love and guidance. Proverbs 27:17 reminds us, “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” By supporting each other’s strengths, you’re building each other up and teaching your children the value of mutual respect and teamwork under God’s direction.

6. Embrace God’s Grace for Mistakes

No parent is perfect, and there will be times when you both make mistakes. Embrace God’s grace when you fall short, and extend that same grace to each other. 1 Peter 4:8 says, “Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.” When disagreements or frustrations arise, let love be the foundation for forgiveness and patience. God’s grace is abundant, and through it, we can learn to parent with humility and compassion.

Our highest purpose is to bring glory to God (1 Corinthians 10:31), and this includes praying according to His will. To do this, we must first ask for wisdom: “If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given to him” (James 1:5). As we seek wisdom, we must trust in God’s graciousness and believe that He hears and answers our prayers: “But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt” (James 1:6; also Mark 11:24). Therefore, praying according to God’s will involves seeking wisdom to discern His will and asking in faith to trust it.

Here are five biblical principles to help believers pray according to God’s will:
1) Pray for what Scripture commands: The Bible provides clear direction for prayer. There are clear things that we are supposed to pray for – like our enemies (Matthew 5), more workers for the harvest and for the healing of others (James 5). When we pray for what God has commanded, we can be assured that we are praying according to His will.
2) Pray with the right motives: Selfish prayers are not honoured by God. “When you ask, you do not receive because you ask with wrong motives” (James 4:3). Our prayers should not be for personal gain or to be seen as spiritual by others, but rather offered humbly and in private, knowing that God sees and rewards what is done in secret (Matthew 6:5-6).
3) Pray with thanksgiving: Gratitude should accompany our prayers (Colossians 4:2; Philippians 4:6-7). No matter how weighed down we feel by life’s challenges, there is always something to be thankful for. Even in the midst of suffering, we have the assurance of God’s redeeming love and the hope of eternity with Him.
4) Pray with persistence: Jesus encouraged persistent prayer (Luke 18:1), and Paul urged believers to “pray without ceasing” (1 Thessalonians 5:17). We should not give up when answers don’t come quickly, trusting that God’s timing and will are perfect, whether His answer is “yes,” “no,” or “wait.”
5) Rely on the Holy Spirit in prayer: One of the greatest comforts is knowing that the Holy Spirit intercedes for us when we don’t know what to pray for. “The Spirit himself intercedes for us with groans that words cannot express” (Romans 8:26-27). Even in our weakest moments, when prayer seems impossible, the Spirit prays on our behalf according to God’s will.

When we walk in step with the Spirit, we can trust that He will present our prayers to the Father according to His perfect will. We can rest in the promise that God is working all things together for our good (Romans 8:28).